I’m so excited to say this,
So here goes,
I WANT A BABY.!
Now before you call me shallow and all sorts of names you could possibly think of, lemme also mention that I want to get married. Happily married. The kind that’s deep, affectionate, fond, tender, sweet, passionate. Yeah, I know you’re catching on coz* I’m already there 🙂
Before I forget,
Dear Future Husband, wherever you are, just to let you know, I’ve already planned our wedding and our honeymoon. It’s in Pamukkale. We need to see the beautiful waters of Istanbul run through the great terraces.
Thank me later.
I want a husband. A baby. A family to be precise.
I am a feminist. Yes, you read that right. F-E-M-I-N-I-S-T.
Just in case you’re wondering what a feminist looks like, look no farther. Or probably just look at Emma Watson. She’s more easily googlable 🙂
I am a feminist. A sober clearheaded feminist. Born and bred by profeminists. Raised in a profeminist environment. Nurtured by a God that loves the woman just as much as the man. So it scared me, immensely, to log onto Feminist Current for some inspiration and find;
’11 REASONS NOT TO GET MARRIED.’
I shook. Literally.
Top of the list of the 11 reasons read:- ‘marriage benefits men and not women’.
Now I’m not a research analyst nor am I a human behavioural expert, but if there’s one thing I know, it’s that just because a study steers to a conclusion on human behaviour and human relations doesn’t make it ‘Gospel Truth’.
The author goes on and on on how marriage is the evil in society and she hits home with:- getting divorced is difficult and annoying.
I understand where she’s coming from, I’m sure you all do, heartbreaks are devastating to say the least. But just because the fire burns doesn’t mean we stop barbecuing. And in no way is marriage like fire. Its more like a garden. It keeps growing depending, of course, on several factors.
While I have no dispute with individuals who have chosen off the nuptial path, I see no connection whatsoever between feminism and ‘marriage-hate’. To go out and tag feminism as an anti-mariage or anti-family organization is a huge sham to the strong women’s liberal movement.
22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made He a woman, and brought her unto the man.
23 And Adam said, This is now one of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife.
King James Version (KJV)
The advocacy of women’s rights; seeking to establish equal opportunities for women and men.
One of the most beautiful concepts I know; seeking equity, not equality, because in a woman lies a certain logic, decisiveness, subtle strength, that the world needs. And in a man lies a certain courage, outward strength, hardwork, that the world needs.
The love.The joy. The worries. The scare. The pride. The beauty. The fear. The care. All that comes with nurturing a young one.
So much encapsulated in one word : motherhood.
If anything, motherhood and feminism go hand in hand. One can’t do without the other. A feminist will raise her daughter to respect herself, to believe in the value of her opinion, to be generous with her time, to have a strong work ethic and to have love:both for herself, and for others. A feminist will raise her son to be brave, to be respectful, to be a man of honour, to be polite,to be noble and to go after his dreams.
The next time a lady tells you she is a feminist, for Pitts sake, don’t go all ‘so you hate men’ on her. No.! Instead, understand that feminism was, is and will never be about men. Feminism is about HER.
Fulfilling HER God-given purpose.
And guess what, the longer you cage a wild bird, the more it yearns to fly out, into the unknown.
As women, we are like the wild bird. We have so much within us. And we want to dive into the vast world. And give it our best. Live like we’re meant to.
That will never stop a lady from being a homemaker, a wife, a mother, a sister, a friend. You name it.
You best believe that.
And to you our gentlemen, we love you. Greatly. We need you as much as you need us. That’s just the ecosystem. It calls out for balance. You mess with balance: you mess with the base that society is built on: family.
Peace and love,